- “I Complete Me”
So often we think that we need someone to make us feel good… to make us feel complete. Truth is, the only person that complete you is YOU. Everything beyond that is just extra, gooey specialness. I know that there are times we feel insecure and alone. This is a cry and a call for more love….from YOU no less!
The next time you look somewhere outside yourself for love, know that it can only be filled up by you. You will be attracting what you feel inside, and if it’s empty… welllllll, you get the pic!
Fill yourself up with love. Feel this love and radiate it outward. You will be pleasantly surprised to see who and what you attract into your life when you live in this high intensity frequency.
Finding it hard to love yourself fully?
Forgive your past troubles and let go of old pains. Love your scars; let them wash away with the rain. Give yourself a big hug and say, “I love you *insert name*”.
I complete me. You complete you. Our complete selves complete the Uni-verse.
Are You Preventing Yourself From Living Your Dream?
Are you trying to do TOO much??
Sometimes we think we can do it all, when that really isn’t the case. We often convince ourselves that if we love the things that we’re doing, it’s a good thing and totally acceptable. This is a misconception! We can’t do it ALL! Yes, we can do lots of things and we can reach succcess… BUT NOT ALL AT THE SAME TIME!!!
The greats of the world didn’t get there by doing too much of many things. They decided what it was that they wanted to achieve and they took the necessary action steps that would push them in that direction.
Which activities are you participating in that you need to let go of?
You see, our dreams are made possible through something called *sacrifice.* I feel as though society makes us feel like we can “have it all.” Well, guess what? We CAN’T… at least not all at once! This doesn’t mean that we have to let go of something forever. It does mean that we need to take a break so that we can focus on making our dreams a reality.
Take some time to figure out which activities you can put to rest for now. At the same time, decide which activities you should add into your daily regimen that will bring you closer to your goal.
You are the only person who can do this for yourself. Take this responsibility with care. Get clear on what it is that you WANT. Go after it.
You CAN do this and you WILL if you want it bad enough.
It’s time to stop dreaming our dreams and start living our dreams….TODAY.
Tempest-tossed souls, wherever you may be, under whatever conditions you may live, know this: In the ocean of life the isles of blessedness are smiling and the sunny shore of your ideal awaits your coming. Keep your hands firmly upon the helm of thought. In the core of your soul reclines the commanding Master; He does but sleep; wake Him. Self-control is strength. Right thought is mastery. Calmness is power. Say unto your heart, Peace. Be still.
Do You Ever Ask The Question: WHY???
Why oh WHY do we do things we say we don’t want to do over and over again? How many times do you find yourself doing something you told yourself you didn’t want to do, only to completely regret it afterward? You are SO not alone on this one!
I’m going to throw a word out there that you most likely know, but maybe don’t acknowledge that often. This word is: SELF-SABOTAGE. (duhn duhn duhhhhhn!) What if we actually admitted that all of our suffering in life comes from no other, but OURSELVES.
Huh? What? Are you kidding?
NO JOKE! (….and you know it too!)
Well, my friends, I’m here to pop the pretty little bubble you’ve been living in for awhile now.
You are the cause of your suffering. Plain and simple. Tough to digest? AH HUH, I get it!
You see, we often live our life playing the role of the victim. You know that role quite well don’t you? “So and so did *something* to ME!” Sound familiar? Well, unfortunately that story sounds super convincing. However, it’s the most un-empowering story we could possible tell ourselves! Why? It tells us that we have ZERO control to change our position in the situation! It puts the power completely and 100% in the other persons court! Hmm…..
When someone does something that hurts us, we automatically react with feelings of hurt, anger, sadness… pretty much any negative emotion. Interestingly enough, we CHOOSE to react with those feelings. Ohmygod, are you feeling the light getting brighter??
We can actually decide and interpret how we want to react to someone. We can slow down that reaction time and process what that person did or said. We can CHOOSE how we want to assimilate that information. Therefore, we can CHOOSE to give it an empowering meaning and save ourselves from immense suffering (like, who wants to feel like that anyways?). I’m totally not saying that life is rainbows and butterflies and that this is easy, but what I am saying is that we have a CHOICE and there’s POWER in that knowledge itself. It starts with something called AWARENESS. The more present we can become moment to moment, the more simple it can be to actually BE in any given situation… the more simple it can be to assimilate the information at hand, process it, and be able to give it a positive meaning that empowers us. It takes practice, it takes patience, but isn’t it worth it? Of alllll the times we have these confrontations, it’s SO worth it to start creating a relationship with it.
Okay, I’m SO not done yet! The best part is yet to come…
How about the times we do something OURSELVES, that we know is NOT good for us and then we make ourselves suffer after, drowning in disappointment. I’m not just talking a little disappointment here… I’m talking complete misery!! We are sooo good at making ourselves suffer with that little thing called the EGO that lives in our MIND.
We do something we know isn’t good for us. We engage in it with passion. Then, during the moment or some time later, we completely and utterly REGRET the decision to participate in the given activity. We then mull it over in our minds until we make ourselves feel really upset and mad at ourselves. Then you are in a situation where you are interacting with a friend or family member and you are UBER cranky and reactive, causing you to get in a spat with them… This cycle can continue over and OVER again.
Causing our own suffering with ourselves is much like the suffering caused by reacting to people around us. We still have the power to choose. We still have the power to write a different story and interpret the situation in a way that empowers us!
What would happen if we just LET IT GO? (oooo, sounds nice right?)
What would happen if we just forgave ourselves? (hmm…)
What would happen if we made an empowering decision to choose differently next time and if we mess up again, it’s totally okay because we are SO far from being perfect! (YES!)
So, let’s completely change our story. Let’s reinvent our relationships. Let’s empower ourselves.
…AND for goodness sake, if you get in a situation and you start making yourself suffer due to an interaction with someone else, or yourself…. just acknowledge it and be easy on yourself!! Every time we get present and admit the truth to ourselves, we awaken ourselves to the POWER inside that we have and always will have!
Let’s have fun today! Let’s be easy on ourselves. Let’s be aware. Let’s laugh at our mistakes. Let’s love ourselves and others through our shortcomings. Most of all, let’s allow ourselves to be the silly humans beings we that are!
Next time you ask WHY, think about how you want to answer that question! Change your dialogue:
Why? Just because and I’m okay with that.
Why oh WHY? That person might’ve been having a bad day and I CHOOSE not to take it personally.
Why? I’m letting it goooo!
Why? Why not!
Why? I’m going to choose better next time!
Why? Because I’m human.
Choose to love yourself and others through human mistakes!
Love even more today, I DARE you.
The Way I See The ‘What-Ifs’
The way I see it is that life is a series of questions and answers. The way I see it is that life is full of ups and downs, highs and lows, expansions and contractions. The way I see it is that life is full of polar opposites, yin and yang, two opposing forces that balance each other in harmony. The way I see it, is that we can’t live our lives without both ends of the spectrum and there’s a raw beauty found in this nature.
The way I see it is that we sometimes don’t like acknowledging one of the two forces. We only want to concentrate and focus on the one that FEELS good, while resisting the other.
‘What if’ we decided to surrender and accept life for all of its flowing energies? ‘What if’ we understood that life’s pains are what distinguish our deepest pleasures- actually enhancing and maximizing them? ‘What if’ we knew that life’s tragedies and dark moments actually envelope a gracious gift for us to take with us on our journey? ‘What if’ we knew that moments of love and light are always around the corner from the darkness? ‘What if’ we knew in the moment that pain was never permanent? ‘What if’ we believed that moments of sadness were a pathway to truth and freedom? ‘What if’ we believed that our enemies were our greatest teachers? ‘What if’ we acknowledged that the only moment we have is NOW and we lived in it with the wholeness and completeness of our soul? ‘What if’ we didn’t look for the next high or low, but instead had an internal knowing that life will naturally balance out for us, as Mother Earth balances a heat wave with cooling rain drops and breezy winds?
The way I see it is that life’s questions can be answered with the mentality of ‘what if’. Asking ‘what if’ allows us to think beyond limits, to see possibilities beyond reason. Choosing to ask ‘what if’ can change the relationship we have with life itself.
So I challenge you to a massive ‘what if’ mentality. Open your heart and listen to the answers that lie within your soul. Your experience in this lifetime can be all that you want it to be and more if you remain open and follow your natural intuition. Try not to get stuck in the mind, as the mind can limit us from the infinite freedom of possibility that the Uni-verse can shower upon us.
The way I see it, is that you hold the power to flow with the natural wave of life. Let go of your resistance to the dark and ask yourself ‘what if’. ‘What if’ this was temporary? ‘What if’ this is teaching me a lesson? ‘What if’ this is an attempt for the Uni-verse to wake me up to the reality of ‘what is’?
The way I see it is that it’s your RIGHT to ask ‘what-if’.
Open deeply to the realm of possibility.
Find love and compassion for yourself.
You are the keeper to your heart and soul. You hold the key to your own happiness. Unlock the limiting blocks from your mind and start living an authentic life from the inside-out. Close your eyes and breathe, feeling the calmness and peace that comes from within. You owe it to the beautiful and loving being that you ARE. The next time that you find yourself stuck and resistant in a moment of darkness, make sure to ask yourself a series of ‘what ifs’ and feel the anger, anxiety, and sadness start to fade and trickle away.
What happens when life is full of the same ol’? NOTHING. That’s right! When you stick with the same, stick with comfort, stick with the knowing, you are holding yourself back from growth and experience! Every great athlete, artist, or entrepreneur became that way not from doing the same thing over and over, but by trying new things, pushing their limits, stretching their creative boundaries just a wee bit further than they (or anyone) thought they were capable of!
It’s time. Now is the time to take off the harness, the training wheels and the “safe” mentality. Take a free fall in life….don’t worry about how you’re going to land.
It’s time to grow, it’s time to learn and it’s time to LIVE! It’s in living freely that we truly reap the juice that life has to offer.
Let go and step outside your comfort zone NOW!
Why Saying NO Can Help You GROW!
For all you people please-rs out there… how easy is it to say YES??
If you’re anything like me, you may find yourself volunteering your time all over the place as if life is one long ’recess’ and we’re all living on monopoly money. The truth is, our time is sooo valuable! It’s not just free monopoly money. You and your time are WORTH much, much more than you’re giving yourself credit for.
Sometimes we might feel selfish for saying NO to something. Well here’s what I have to say to that: your time spent on others is only as valuable as you are, and you are only as valuable as the time you spend on yourself. Confusing? Think about it for a minute. If we spend all of our time only on those around us and forget about ourselves, how valuable are we really? Not so much.
Another reason why saying NO is tough is the thought of disappointing another. The yes-friendly people out there will do anything to avoid letting others down! To better understand, here’s a scenario: you say yes to something you don’t have time for because you didn’t want to let that person down. Now, you’re scrambling to fit the rest of your priorities in your schedule…. you run yourself down in the process… AND end up feeling stressed. Who wins here? It’s a lose, lose situation. You didn’t want to give your time in the first place so you are likely not giving your full energy/commitment. Moreover, you now have zero time to yourself and end up feeling sick over all of it. This pattern is ‘oh-so-common,’ but it fails to serve anyone.
Let’s practice saying NO!
Think about those times we CHOSE to say NO to something we knew we couldn’t accomplish. Leading up to it may be extremely scary… almost nerve-wracking. If you’re used to saying yes, saying NO may feel completely foreign and unnatural to you! However, saying NO gives us the opportunity to GROW. It’s a chance to listen to your soul and express your true feelings with no expectations of a favourable response. As scary as it is, it allows us to CHOOSE to stay on the divine path you know you are meant to follow. It’s an intuitive choice. When we follow that inner voice or gut feeling, we feel centered and aligned with the Uni-verse. The moment after we say NO to something we know isn’t right, there is a feeling of extreme lightness. A feeling of peace and love for yourself for doing what was right for you.
So go ahead, say YES when it’s right, but beware of the consequences of choosing to keep your ‘NO’ tightly sealed away.
Take care of yourself. You can’t help others when you’re running on empty with murky fuel.
Take the time to FUEL UP with people, things, and practices that give you energy, vitality and love. Choose the cleanest fuel possible!
Next time you have a choice to make, take some time to ask yourself if it’s the right thing to do. We all want to give to others, but the most important person who you need to give to is YOURSELF.
Give to YOU!
Life is full of ‘spectrums’. An infinite path laced with scenarios and possibilities. We are all within the spectrum one way or another. However, where we are within the spectrum is ultimately up to us.
Along a spectrum, there are only two directions to go: towards or away. For example: a common spectrum would be love vs. fear. We are either moving towards love, or away from it….aka, towards fear. The tricky concept to grasp is that it is impossible to be at both ends at the same time. You cannot BE fear in the presence of love. Similarly, you cannot BE love when you are in a fearful state.
Anything in life that we can observe and reflect upon can be viewed in the light of a spectrum. We can look at our lives as a whole, or break it down into specific situations that are arising in our lives right now.
Once we observe, we have the opportunity to make CHOICES that will drive us towards what we desire, or take us further away.
HOW you might ask…
To get closer towards one end of the spectrum, all you need to do is add more of what you desire! If it’s love, add more love into your life. Feel more love. Surround yourself with loving people and the fear will dissolve.
It’s such a powerful, yet incredibly scary concept, that life and the quality of our lives is in our own hands. We have the ability to thrive or suffer. Yet, most people want to blame the world, other people, places or things for their circumstances. It’s easier to do that than to take ownership that maybe you got yourself into a messy situation in the first place.
Now, we’re at the best part! What are some current situations in your life where you are sliding towards the negative end of the spectrum? If both ends are equally possible, wouldn’t you rather be at the positive end? Think of ways you can bring yourself closer to that desired state, or outcome.
If the spectrum has an endless array of possibilities, don’t you want the BEST possible one?
I sure do, and so should you.
You deserve nothing but the BEST.
Do yourself a favour and apply this concept to something happening in your life RIGHT NOW.
Make a decision regarding where you want to go and take the necessary ACTION in order to get there.
You WILL get there!
YAY for endless possibilities!!
Push Your Limits!
I just wanted to share a quick blog post about my recent experience. I announced that I was going to do another 21 day challenge after my success with my first one. This time, I chose something even more difficult than the first. I chose to eat a vegan diet for 21 days. I also ate gluten free and stayed away from coffee. The experience was wonderful. I feel happier, stronger, more energetic and excited about life. When you achieve a goal you set for yourself, it only gives you fuel and momentum to continue growing in a positive direction.
WHY did I do this, you might wonder? To PUSH MY LIMITS! That’s why! Too many times in our lives we sit in comfort with “the way things are,” rather than deciding “what they should be”.
Have you ever heard the line: "If you aren’t growing, you’re dying"?
This is the TRUTH! If we never stretch our limits and break down the limiting beliefs that hold us back from developing, then we are essentially metaphorically ”dying.” It is in growing that we learn about ourselves: our thoughts, feelings, beliefs and attitudes that shape our lives and the very scenarios that are unfolding around us.
BUT…. now here is the big BUT that we all face when “going here.” BUT what if it’s hard, BUT what if it’s uncomfortable, BUT I don’t know what will happen, BUT I’m scared, BUT…BUT…BUT!!! (enough BUT’s, you get the picture! ;))
The way I like to answer this is, BUT WHAT? What’s the worst that can happen? How will you know until you try? Your fear of stretching yourself is stopping you from reaching your goals, dreams, and ambitions in life! In fact, most of our fears are just thoughts that we’ve turned into “beliefs” about what COULD happen, not what WILL happen. At the end of the day, these thoughts aren’t true!! Have you even been in a situation where a thought pops into your mind that’s quite bizarre and you need to give your head a shake because you know it’s totally not true? These unconscious, false thoughts happen ALL the time! It’s when we BELIEVE these thoughts, that we give them power and energy and this power limits us from achieving what will truly bring us happiness, fulfillment, peace and love.
SO, what’s holding you back in your life today?
What are some beliefs that are limiting you from living your truth?
Question these beliefs and ask yourself where they came from. You will find that many of them you made up yourself and they are surely not serving you any purpose!
LET GO of the old and create new, empowering stories about your life.
Stretch your limits.
Make some goals.
Make a DECISION to take ACTION.
Remember: What you choose to do today affects your tomorrow.
21 Days- The Magic Number
Many people have heard that it takes 21 days to break a habit. If you don’t believe me, just pick up one of the countless books written on the subject, or simply google it. Knowing this, I decided to try an experiment for myself.
I was waking up every morning crawling to the coffee maker in desperation for my AM antidote. There were mornings when I would run out of time and rush to the office without my morning cup of Joe. I’d be sitting at my desk staring at my screen with my eyes closing. I’ve actually leaned back in my chair and fell asleep at my desk. REALLY??? This nap-like state first thing in the morning is NOT normal and it’s definitely NOT healthy. Not only was I consuming copious amounts of coffee in the mornings, but my tolerance went up causing me to drink throughout the day AND night.
Why was this happening to me?
A few reasons come to mind. Firstly, I love the taste of the stuff. From the time my father let me try a sip of his decaf coffee way back in the day I was hooked.
Secondly, I started enjoying the culture of coffee drinking. In a sense, it connects you with many people. Just walk into a Tim’s or Starbucks and look around at the customers in line with you. Everyone looks the other in the eye with that secret excitement that they too, are getting their ‘special’ coffee fix. It’s a connection that most people crave on a daily basis.
Lastly, I’m addicted to the buzz. Aren’t we all? Just give me my cup of coffee and I’m moving quicker, thinking faster and have all the energy in the world to accomplish anything.
Unfortunately, there’s a crash. This crash leads to another cup to chase the high again. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that everyone is this dependent on caffeine. All I know is that I was, and that this type of dependence on an external source was unhealthy. In a sense, it was controlling my life. You would never think that something so simple could cause so much havoc, but many health professionals link caffeine in the same category as drugs, alcohol and sugar.
NOTE: Not everyone reacts the same way to caffeine. Every person is different. One persons pain is another ones pleasure.
A glimpse of the process:
Week 1 is always the hardest. You miss the routine that you’ve become so accustomed to. Our brains are so used to our habits that they become hardwired to need these things. This week is all about breaking the synopses connected to the brain. The habit itself is mostly a ’brain-thing’ anyways. The mind is extremely powerful. It’s tough, but we are stronger than we think!
Week 2- you miss your vice, but you are somehow managing to survive. At this point you might want to cave, but you’ve already come this far that it seems pointless to give in.
Week 3- you are starting to feel like a superhero. Your cravings have gone away and you start regaining energy. By the end of three weeks you don’t miss a thing. It’s a feeling that cannot be described, only experienced.
When I was in a state of caffeine dependence, I literally couldn’t fathom the idea of going without. “I have so much to accomplish today”. “I can’t afford to be tired”. ”I can’t do it”! The best way to put it: you can only do it when you’re ready. You can only do it if you WANT to change. No one can tell you what to do. Only YOU can.
What helped me through the process?
Before becoming caffeine dependent I was a tea-lover. I grew up with tea and it became a norm in my household. When coffee came into the picture, tea seemed weak and bland. I have now re-discovered my love for tea during this time. I drink white, green, rooibos… you name it! Not only is tea extremely healthy, I completely enjoy the experience and it makes me feel GOOD.
(I’m not saying that I’ll never experience a cup of coffee again… that’s not the point! I would love to enjoy a CUP from time to time. I’m just excited that I no longer depend on it to live.)
I am feeling SO strong that I’ve decided to take on another challenge.
Currently, I mostly eat a plant-based diet with occasional organic animal products. I’ve always been a fan of plant-based diets for their extreme health benefits. However, I’ve never gone completely vegan for more than a few days. This leads me to my next challenge: I’ve decided to go 21 days on a vegan diet and document the entire process. Not only am I doing this for health reasons, but personal ethics as well. Knowing and understanding what goes on in our dysfunctional food industry makes me turned off from consuming any animal products. I’m excited to begin this journey and to see where it takes me.
At the end of the day, life is what you make of it. Humans are a strong species, but we live in a society that doesn’t support us. Our society does not help us thrive. That’s when we realize that we have to essentially ‘work’ at creating a life that does support us. Past the drugs, chemicals, technology, pollutants, media and violence, we are living creatures ‘living’ on this earth. Anytime we can get away from all of the noise and garbage, we can get closer to experiencing a life of FREEDOM.
What can you FREE yourself from today?
Take on a challenge.
Do it for YOU.
The reward is a more free, energetic, and happy YOU.